Seeing your life differently - rewriting your story.

Today I am focusing on beliefs, perceptions, and judgments that we accepted and believed as a young child. It is extremely important to realize that the messages we internalize may not be those that the people in our lives were giving us. For example, as a child you may ask a question just when the phone is ringing and dinner is burning, you may get a harsh response and believe they do not care about you, when the response has nothing to do with you. You just do not see the situation the from the same perspective. Even when a parent apologizes, the child may still hold self doubt. This journey may allow you to change your view of reality, of your life and of yourself. I encourage you to start or add these to your journal writings.

How have you viewed your early childhood life from the aspects of stability, safety. and security? Was your view of your feelings of life then one of trust or distrust? Did you feel sustained and rooted in life and with yourself and your surroundings? Was there turmoil, instability or confusion in your environment? Remember "Leave it to Beaver" was a tv show not reality. Don't judge your life against that, just be honest and open.

As you are going over these questions, do you view the circumstances or situation of that time as full acceptance of life on earth, or do you feel a sense of resistance, fear, anger or bitterness?

As children we are born into families. All family situations differ. Many times, families or parents do not have the ability to love freely or completely. Here I am not passing judgment. I am saying that many of us were never able to really love ourselves. We may have felt judged, insecure, unsupported, lacking and unstable. Often the people in our lives did not truly know how to love and accept themselves. They may have been living a life of pain or insecurity. They could not love others unconditionally because they might not have known what it was to love themselves. They tried to fit in and earn love. They did not feel they were lovable just for being. There may have always been strings attached.

There are several key points here. One is that there is no fault or blame. Each person does the best they can. Each parent loves their children the best they can. Rather than blaming and judging for others perceived imperfections we would do better to focus on the brokenness and loss of wholeness that they may have experienced. This puts us in a state of compassion and forgiveness.

Once we accept, love and forgive our life for not being what we may not have consciously chosen, we can move on. Living in the past and reliving our hurts over and over keeps us trapped, unhealthy and we are not living in love.

The good news here is that after we let go of the past we can start moving on. We start to create the life we want by realizing that we are creators. We need to accept the we are each born by a loving creator and are a soul of pure love. Innocent little lovable babies. In this state we are more like the animal kingdom. We are part of nature and nurture. We know how to suckle, we respond to fear and love and comfort in healthy ways. As we learned and developed our egos we lose touch with that pure little spirit of love and joy. We start to form opinions and beliefs about who we are. They are lies, but we believe them. We do not know any better. But now you have the ability to change and see the truth.

Starting today I ask each of us to repeat the following affirmations. Add others if they pop into your mind!

• I accept this life on earth.
• I am safe, secure and stable. All my needs will be met.
• I trust life.
• I am a divine spark of life.
• I have all I need within myself.
• My life is a balance of a relationship with earth and the source of creation and infinite love.
• I trust myself. I trust my intuition. My knowing from within.
• I choose to question false beliefs that I have held.
• It is okay to experience my emotions, accept them and own the power of truth within me.
• I am strong. I am loving.
• I have free will and a choice to choose a different path than I have been on.

You may want to write a letter to yourself, one to your mother and one to your father. Feel your emotional pain and release it. Tell yourself that you are now choosing to rewrite your life from the truth not your false perceptions of reality, judgments and pain. You are going to create a loving child who loves themselves for the beauty within regardless of what you may have encountered outside of yourself. Tell yourself, This or that happened or I felt that. It is over now and I survived. I am O.K. I choose to let it go and to live a life of giving and receiving love and not living in pain or lies. I WANT TO LIVE AND LOVE. If you need to write about your anger write it and release it. Forgive it. Write a letter to others (don't send it) just let them know how you felt and forgive them. Perhaps you may want to burn it after to complete letting go.

As you do this, you will feel more courageous, freer, lighter and more empowered. You will be taking your power back. You will be deciding to see your life in a much different way.

If I can be of assistance to you, please contact me 630-730-1228 or dgagala@comcast.net. You may also visit my website www.purposepassionvision.com.

Debbie

Certified LifeLine Practitioner

Some truths are right in front of us, yet we do may still not see them. We appear to be blinded by our perspective which seems to repeat itself over and over. Just like the math problem that we redo over and over, getting the same result but the wrong answer. Life can be that way too.

We may be aware that something is not right. The first impulse is to look at others in our life or environment and point a finger of blame. We resist our perceived reality, because it is not what we consciously desire. We want to run from it, hide from it, or escape it.

This truth may appear to have many faces: obesity, addiction, lonliness, depression, grief, unhappiness with relationship(s) or job/career. But those are really masks. What is behind the mask is the real truth. You believe the mask is real. And become a victim of what it appears to show you.

Often we try to deny or change who we are to fit the situation or emotion that we are feeling. We want an easy answer, a magic pill. We believe that if we "tough it out" things will get better or improve. We believe that it is happening to us from the outside. We do not want to take responsibility for the choices that we have made or not made to get us to this point. Now we realize where we are and cry out for injustice. We may often believe that something is wrong with us and may begin a cycle of self abuse that makes us feel even worse.

Consider, for a moment, what would it be like to honor those emotions and truths that are being revealed to you. Could it be that they are a gift from yourself to awaken you to what you are denying within yourself; that you are loveable, powerful, and beautiful. Have you been afraid to allow yourself to be that worthy of love, purpose and power? The truth or reality is yours to accept. Not as a declaration of future but of past and present moment. Name it. What is it for you?

Now, how does that make you feel about yourself? What is it telling you that has or has not happened to bring you to this present truth? You have already agreed that you do not want this as truth. I'll pick the first one on the list. Obesity. You think obesity is your truth because that is what you see. But that is only the veil, hiding the truth behind what the obesity is here to teach you. Your truth is not obesity, it is the pattern of behavior that you have been hiding behind to prevent you to become the happy confident person you are meant to be. What are you afraid of? What is it that you choose to deny or fail to pursue? What is your passion? How would you create the ideal you? What is holding you back from beginning that journey?

Your real truth is your spirit waiting for you to answer the call to be happy, fulfilled and full of life. When you are not in this state of bliss, you are given false realities to help you reclaim and discover who you really are, a spirit of pure love and light.

Do you want to move into the present moment to let go of your past, honor all that has brought you to this space and move forward to a better more empowered and happier you? Can you imagine?

I challenge you to honor yourself to face the parts if you and your life that you judge and do not like. What is the real truth behind what they are presenting you with?

I would be honored to work with you and guide you through this journey. As a Certified LifeLine Practitioner, I can help you get in touch with your desires. It is my calling to nurture and love. It is my purpose to learn to honor, love and walk as one with all, creating balance and harmony.

Debbie

Certified LifeLine Practitioner

630-730-1228