The storybook of your life.

Have you chosen to be sucked into the storybook of your life? Or are you choosing to write a new chapter, creating the beautiful spirit of love that is YOU? You are here to feel and share that spirit and all the gifts that make you unique, not only with yourself but with others. Or are you stuck in past details of what was or wasn't? There are messages and lessons for us to learn from what we find in our story. It tells us who we have been, how we got to where we are now. We need to reflect on the emotions of these chapters in our book to release what is still stuck there. You can choose to understand, forgive, release parts of your story that are keeping you stuck there. *

If the emotions you are feeling as you listen to your story are keeping you down, Why? Why are you not choosing to write a new page in your book instead. Are you ready to let go of what is weighing you down? Are you ready to fly and be the you that is waiting to burst forth and write a new story for who you want to be. Who you want to be is a choice. Loving yourself is the journey that gets you there. Live from your spirit today, it is that part of you that is here now. Breathe in and as you exhale let your actions reflect the you that you want to be.

You have today, you have now.

* For an appt. to help you move through the emotions that need to be released from your past and help you to live more fully present in the now please contact me. I would love to journey with you to help you to become your Purpose, passion and vision. Life is too short to not be choosing to shine!

Infinite Love & Gratitude.

Debbie

dgagala@comcast.net

A joy filled life

There are so many demands on our time and 0n our emotions that sometimes we need to remind ourselves to feel joy. Do you feel joy?

We often get so caught up in what we need to do each day. We have jobs, children to care for, mortgages, rising prices, challenging family structures (separations, divorces, multiple marriages, mixed families and extended family members all over the globe). Our society is one of instant gratification. All of these lead to challenges in parenting our children in healthy ways that will teach them the values and strengths that are going to help them to become happy, secure, joyful people that are filled with love of self and of life. We want them to live each moment with joy. We want them to feel and know they are loved and that life is filled with unlimited possibilities for all of their desires.

It is easy to spend all our time and emotions on our kids, families, friends and those we love and care for. We love them unconditionally with our whole hearts. We want the absolute best for them.

But what about you. Don't you deserve the same: happiness, love and life filled with unending joy. Don't you deserve a life filled with passion and unlimited possibilities? Yes, you do.

Did you ever stop to consider that you deserve it. Ask for it . Now. I want joy in my life. Stop to think about ways you can add joy into your life.

When I wake up today, I want my day to reflect joy in everything I do. We are on this earth, on this physical reality to experience life. Choose joy as part of that experience. I am grateful and full of joy that I am alive and want to celebrate living. Smile. Sing. Dance. Laugh. Take a bike ride, go to a game. Bake a cake or cookies or go drop in and visit someone.

Give yourself permission to be JOYFUL.

Infinite Love & Gratitude!

Debbie

Certified LifeLine Practitioner

for an appt. contact me: dgagala@comcast.net

A safe space just for you.

Over the last weekend, I became more aware of my of my own space and how others energy affects mine. Questions swarmed through my mind. Why am I feeling this? Why am I aware of this? Why is this bothering me? What is the message? I went to a dear friend, asking for his help. I was, in my usual fashion, looking for intellectual answers? I planned on a conversation of if this, then what. I wanted to know how to fix what was going on with me. My friend, in his wisdom gave me something much more important. Thank you "PpB".

What he did for me was to take me to a quiet space. In this space, I wanted to talk, to ask the questions, I wanted answers for. My friend, calmly guided me and simply said, "shhhhhh". I went inside, finding a safe, quiet place within. As I did so, I realized that I was creating a safe boundary that would allow me to remain strong, safe and connected to self and the Divine. It was very welcomed. I felt peace and very connected to my true self. I realized that I did not have to let others energy affect me, unless I wanted it to. Also, I became aware that some of what I was feeling were messages that I needed to listen to. It was necessary for me to simply ask, Why is "blank" bothering me.

I learned that it is ok to set boundaries. It is ok to say no to others and keep what is mine, either physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually to myself. It is not only ok but it is important to recognize when you are crossing boundaries.

Sit quietly for about 5 minutes. If something enters your mind, lovingly acknowledge it, say thank you, clear your mind and surround yourself with a bubble of love. Inside this bubble, feel comfort, joy, safety, security and peace. If something else comes in to your head or space, say no thank you I am worthy and deserving to enjoy this space. Enjoy these feelings. Are they new to you? You can come to this place anytime you choose. It can last a few seconds or minutes, whatever you choose or can allow at the time.

If you notice someone or something is bothering you in your day, ask yourself, "Why is "this" bothering me, disrupting my peace, my joy?" What is its message? If you notice the energy is not yours, (i.e. someone else's frustration, anger, etc) let it go, set your boundary. Go into your safe bubble, feel your peace, the safely of your own space. Breathe in that love and connection to yourself. Smile. Be grateful for your inner self, which is your connection to spirit.

Then go on with your day.

How does that feel?

Infinite Love & Gratitude!

Debbie

Certified LifeLine Practitioner

dgagala@comcast.net

"The Cause", Choosing Love & Healing

Revision

I just got back from facilitating a training seminar on the LifeLine Technique. It was, as always, transforming.

About a week ago, I watched a u-tube video titled "The Cause". I would recommend watching it, but like many things in our lives it is scary, challenging and painful. It is hard to watch, because of the sad story and reality of what happened and happens too often in life. We inflict pain on others. But it is our pain, our internal pain, that we have not known how to deal with that is the root cause of our acting out in unhealthy ways. These cycles of pain are in each of our lives, just to different degrees. On this weekend, the anger and sadness became very real as I really internalized why these emotions and my own purpose, passion and vision are so strong within me.

As I did so, I began to feel compassion and empathy for the perpetrators. I had done this before, but this time I felt a personal responsibility to help. Anger and judgement do not solve problems and do not heal. Many people find themselves in situations which they are unprepared for. Hurt, anger, sadness, depression, anxiety, withdrawal, denial or many other emotions may surface as a result. Often they do not have the ability to deal with the emotions, neither do or did their parents have the support systems to deal with the fear and pain. So they did what most people used to do. They ignored the situation trying to deny and forget what happened. They pretended it did not happen. But they were wearing a mask on the outside. Inside the pain remains.

Our lives are based on energy. Everything that happens to us affects us on an energetic level. When we bury, hide or run away from something in our life that is painful or fearful it gets buried in our subconscious mind. It then comes out as emotions that are stuck in our energy level. They can manifest into physical symptoms and disease if not dealt with.

I have been dancing around the real issues until now. Change is not something we can randomly choose. We must make a conscious, responsible decision to grow up. It is not easy. But our children, our families, our communities deserve to be happy, healthy and full of love and joy. More importantly we each deserve to feel that self love to such a degree that we are overwhelmingly full of joy and happiness. When are you going to choose love over fear and settling for less than your real truth and potential?

Most of us have been brought up to believe that we are not worthy of happiness. We have limiting beliefs and have accepted lives that are less than they should be because we are living out of fear. We cannot imagine a life where we are living our full purpose and joy. Most of us do not have role models that believe that either.

We are capable of sooo much joy and happiness. Life is FULL of potential. The possibilities are endless. No matter what is happening in your life that is not what you want it to be, you can choose to change.

It is easy to judge, blame and lash out at perpetrators. But within each of us is a perpetrator on some level, an inner child that did not get the love it needed. But that inner child can still, regardless of the age, deal with the past and choose to live in the present. A present that is happy, fulfilling and beyond measure in love.

Baby Kelsey from this video deserves for us to honor her memory by the precious life. Many others who live in spirit remind us to choose love and learn to love ourselves and heal anything that is not bringing us joy in life. They have taught me the importance and power of forgiveness and compassion. We are all created from a Divine Loving Universal Energy of Love.

My purpose, passion and vision is to allow others to heal from their fear, pain, stress & challenges. Do not accept second best. LIFE is AMAZING. Choose to live your life with passion and purpose.

My training and the new belief system you will awaken too will empower you to live a more fulfilling life, regardless of the issues you are experiencing. Even if you have financial issues, career issues, weight issues, I can help you.

Infinite Love & Gratitude!

Debbie

dgagala@comcast.net

www.infinitelove&gratitude.com

An innocent child

As I have been realizing how much we affect others in our lives by not only the content but also with the frequency and extent of the contact. This is not really a new realization, but my awareness of my involvement and responsibility is deeper.

In my earlier years, I initiated contact with many friends and family. At that time, my relationships were all relatively happy and we had quite a few friends. As time went on, I began to feel burdened. I felt I was always the one doing the calling and inviting and I felt unappreciated and unvalued. I started to call less and started to feel more and more lonely.

It is easy for us to blame others for our decisions and harder to step up and be honest with them. I wish it didn't take me so long to learn this. Now I can see the pattern very well. I told myself that if they did not call, they must not care or love me. As a part of my recent changes and realizations, my aha moment is hard to admit, but nonetheless true. I chose to not love them. Out of my hurt, misperceptions, fear of confronting them with my feelings, I chose to withdraw my love from them. Their reasons and involvement in the quality of the our relationship was there to be sure, but it was my behavior that changed and it was my fear and lack of love for myself and them that caused me to withdraw.

I have only to look at some of my most valuable relationships to see how this is true, my grandparents. (Can be any relationship but for my point, I will use grandparents.) Most of us have received many, many years of unconditional love, cookies, ice cream and fun from a grandparent. I was very very lucky to have known all grandparents and even some great-grandparents. Their value in my life has been immeasurable. I love each of them so deeply. But as my family grew and I became self involved, I found less and less time for them. I would think of them, I say, "I should call." But the intentions were most often more true than my actions. I felt love but I did not show love.

So maybe they, (like I thought) think that I do not care because I do not call or visit much. That is bringing tears to my eyes because I do soooo care ("soooo" should be in the dictionary!)

So many times, we cannot see past our own pain or do not want to deal with our own pain so we run away from it or withdraw. It is only by owning our pain and dealing with it that we can love ourselves and the others in our lives. When we do so, we also become more compassionate and forgiving. We become able to see through their pain and hurt to see the little innocent child in them. That is what real love is all about.

I just watched "The Secret Life of Bees" (highly recommend it). It was about a little girl, an innocent child, who was in a situation with adults who could not deal with their own pain. She felt unloved and unlovable. Their is an innocent child in each of us who is hungry for love. When we are hungry for love, there remains a part of us that does not love who we are. Unless we love who we are as a whole person we will not feel happiness and joy. We will remain hurt, unfulfilled and unloved.

This little innocent girl was always lovable. She was always valuable. She was always deserving of unlimited joy and happiness. So are you.

Infinite Love & Gratitude,

Debbie

Note: As a Certified LifeLine Practitioner, I offer sessions on helping people choose to live in love in all areas of their lives. (Relationships, work, personal fulfillment, spiritual growth, pain or stress) Please contact me (dgagala@comcast.net) if interested in facing your fears, hurts, pains or stresses. There is nothing better than living your life from your purpose, passion and vision full of joy. This is my true wish for you. I believe in this, it is my purpose, passion and vision.

A little hummingbird magic!

A little hummingbird flew outside my kitchen window getting nectar from a hanging basket that is trying to hold on as fall is upon us. I have not seen one this year. Emotional sweetness, joy, and having a positive outlook are the strengths the hummingbird shares with us. (Aniumal Spirit Guides by Stephen Farmer). As I reflected upon what that message meant for me, I realized the timing was perfect. This follows the post from yesterday which focused on living from love and expressing it into my thoughts, actions and words each day. This amazing little bird reminds me to spread sweetness and joy into life. Of course, I am reminded of the people I have been blessed with in my life who have been full of sweetness and joy. They have touched my heart and spirit so deeply. And that is exactly what I want to spread to others. I want my children to feel that sweetness. I want them to find joy in the little things in life, even if that is mowing the lawn, pulling weeds or cleaning their bedrooms, bathroom, etc.

My great-grandmother was exemplary at this. She had a heart of gold. She was quite content preparing meals, doing her chores, or whatever she had to do. I never heard or felt an instance of complaint from her. She was happy to share whatever she had or could do for anyone. Her heart was open and overflowing with love, encouragement and sweetness. As I connect to her, I realize that she did not struggle to find love or show love, a kind word or action. She just allowed her heart to express it from her spirit.

I have not always done so. I acted from selfishness, anger, hurt and fear. These do not serve anyone. Choosing love only acts out of love. From love is joy, sweetness and happiness.

Thank you little hummingbird, thank you grandma. You gently encourage me to continue along my path of spreading love and sweetness. There is no better feeling than this: to feel, give and receive love.

Infinite Love & Gratitude,

Debbie

Note: As a Certified LifeLine Practitioner, I offer sessions on helping people choose to live in love in all areas of their lives. (Relationships, work, personal fulfillment, spiritual growth, pain or stress) Please contact me (dgagala@comcast.net) if interested in facing your fears, hurts, pains or stresses. There is nothing better than living your life from your purpose, passion and vision full of joy. This is my true wish for you. I believe in this, it is my purpose, passion and vision.

YES. I feel different. I have changed.

I allow my spirit and my heart to live and to be free to express my truth and my love.

This was the intention of the LifeLine session two days ago. After the session, I felt secure and serene. I was also feeling very inspired. I was anxious to really reach out and share my life, my views, and my love. As I went through my day, what began to occur to me, was the difference between who I had been and who I was now choosing to be. I had been failing to share my life and my love the way I really wanted to. There was a big difference between what was in my heart and what my intentions were from how I was really showing to others.

That realization was very hard to take. It hurts to realize that you are not being your best and are hurting others by your actions or lack of actions. I felt called to pick up a book that I had not read for awhile. "Stand up for your Life" by Cheryl Richardson. She had a list of wods that helped to define a persons values. As I read through I saw that there were many words that were reflecting what I wanted to be but were not part of who I have been. I had to be honest and do this from my heart.

When the kids and expecially my husband came home, I made sure I took a private moment to talk with them and apologize for the exact ways I had let them and myself down. I epressed my desire to love them differently.

For me that means a few things. One is that I contacted a friend and counselor who is working with me to help me learn to set healthy boundaries, to learn how to control my emotions, (so they do not control me) and how to effectively say what I mean. It also means to keep reading and focusing on my feelings. To really understand what my heart is telling me.

I always connect to my faith and ground myself during the day. So now I repeat the following at least three times a day: "I allow my spirit and heart to live and to be free to express my truth and my love. I choose to be an ACTIVE participant to be my best I can be in my health, my diet, my personality, loving myself, loving others, in giving and in choosing happiness."

While this sounds like a lot it has already made a big shift in how I am acting and responding to myself, to others in my life, and to the daily activities that I have in my routine. I am okay, with having to fold the laundry, or cook dinner, help with homework, etc. It's okay. I also am okay with knowing that discipline and enforcing it is important as well. I need to fair, yet firm. To do it with love. In the past allowing them to get away with little things was my way of showing love, but real love is setting a boundary that teaches them a lasting value that will serve their best interest in the long run.

Expressing my truth and my love to you!

Change is all about Choosing to Love yourself

As I talked with three friends yesterday, I found the same recurring comment coming up in conversation. "I want to change but...." Enter the fear of change again. Change and any fear associated with it is an opportunity to grow and learn to love yourself. This is a journey but it is also a way of living and a destination. It is about living in each moment with choice and owning your own power and not giving it away. Today, my LifeLine session (on myself) was "I allow my spirit and heart to live freely". The possibilities and freedom and strength I feel are incredible.

One of my friends, yesterday said: I don't have the money for a session, my son's birthday is this week". Yes, I said. I understand. Just realize that you are putting the needs of others always before your own needs and happiness. You must choose to love yourself. That means choosing you are worth the time, energy and effort to spend the money for a session on your own happiness. If you do not choose to move forward, you will remain unhappy, unfulfilled and not living the life that you are here to live. With that in mind, I asked her if she was ready to choose to find out what really loving herself and feeling her real potential was like.

For information on a session contact me at dgagala@comcast.net. I would be honored to journey with you. The possibilities are so much greater than you have been led to believe.

Infinite Love & Gratitude!